Thoughts on a good life.....with the possibility of even BETTER times ahead!
Monday, April 11, 2011
Fifty Fourth Post - Incongruence
Incongruence:not congruent, not balanced, not grounded.
According to the Satir Family Therapy Model there are five coping stances. They are thought to be universal and consist of: placating, blaming, irrelevance, super reasonable, and congruence. The goal, the work, is to move towards and ultimately have a congruent life experience (most of the time).
I'm certain there are myriads of metaphors for congruence. When crisis touches my sphere, I am often able to maintain my balance. My mind, heart, and body remain grounded. However, when too many storms hit in rapid succession my alignment shifts, and I default to old patterns of coping. I can shift fairly quickly through all four coping stances; what can I say, I'm a veteran multi-tasker! (sarcasm)
As I continue to grow into my wisdom, it is satisfying to sense, to notice, and be mindful that my being; my mind, heart, and body are grounded. Ah, that sweet spot of peace, even in the midst of the storm! There is room for growth, but I am committed to a life that moves in the direction of positive change. How about you?