Thursday, March 17, 2016

An Open Letter to My Kids

I agree with Derek, I love THIS. I love that Noah is in a daycare that celebrates diversity. "It is important to teach our children to show mutual respect to everyone in Canada"! YES!
And then my wonderings began in earnest (you knew that they would). 
When Noah's daycare celebrates his (or more so his parent's, because face it he's only 2), traditions, beliefs and culture, what will they look like? 
Maybe it's because Easter is just around the corner that my thoughts went to the traditions we practiced when you were still kids. I wonder if as adults you think as much about the Easter bunny as the redemption offered to us through Christ? Are your Easter memories more about the Easter egg hunts we had than the massive Easter productions that jammed packed Easter weekend with Church. (an aside - remember the time that a goat almost pulled Landon off of the stage?)
Speaking of church...of God...of beliefs...what beliefs do you hold as truth now? Is your image of God a loving, caring God? A God who not only created the universe but also took the time to form you so lovingly into tender tiny humans and then for some crazy reason placed you into our care.
As you aged you each exchanged the mantle of my faith with a mantle of your choosing. The point being you had a choice. You had something of faith to choose from - whether to re embrace, adapt, or change completely.
Each of you grew up bathed in prayer. Whether it was Omie & Oma, Grandma, or me, you never entered a single day without being covered in prayer. Prayer for protection, for grace, for love, compassion, and understanding. And don't kid yourselves, when you were teens and in your early twenties, those prayers included a plea for a big dose of guilt that would rob you of any sense of unbridled fun when you made those inevitable and in my opinion 'bad choices'. Just so you know, Grandma and I still pray for you and your offspring daily!
What about your kids? What are the traditions and more importantly beliefs that belong to your families. What do you celebrate?  Let me be clear I am not talking about church attendance and/or religion. And lest you think I'm judging you, I'm not. You are all amazing, caring, and loving parents. You, along with Brittany, Derek, and Deb do parenting so well. I am extremely proud of each one of you.
Wrestling down my wonders I landed on this: What is the foundation of your life? What is that uncompromising part of your heart, soul, and mind that you want to share and pass down to your children. What is YOUR guiding force?
When it's time for daycare to celebrate your family's beliefs, what will they celebrate?
Much love,

Wednesday, January 6, 2016

OneWord2016 Next

Almost exactly a year ago I was struggling to come up with a spiffy, original, meaningful, dazzling, totally unique OneWord2015. It had to be the best OneWord ever! After way too much introspection (self-absorption) the word acceptance became the 2015 word.
January 2016: The Struggle Returns. What will my OneWord 2016 be? Words flit through my head but none settle. This heart rejects them one by one. Perhaps rejection should be the word. Agreed: too harsh.
2015 was a year of change making acceptance exactly the word required. We added two grandsons to our family, a Perry family of four moved far away to Texas, my reverend and I both quit our day jobs (aka retirement2015), we moved back to Coldstream. Change! There's a word? Nope, that's not it yet.
Solitude? Nope. Fresh? Nope. Hope? No. Newness? No, no, no. Not one word is choosing me for 2016. What does keep circling round is:
What'sNext? Each new day is a blank slate. Fresh. No plans. Clean page.
Our morning conversations go something like:
Me: What are you going to do today?
Him: Whatever I want.
Me: That's nice, but what are you going to do today? I need plans, dear husband. At least let me plan your day.
See what I mean? What's Next?
First snowfall 2015 on driveway
Each morning is like the first footsteps on fresh snow. Where to? What's next?
Being the rule bound person I am, two words simply won't work for a OneWord task. Therefore...are you ready for it?
Carol's OneWord2016 is...


Happily done for another year!
The Story of the Log Jam
If you're interested here are links to my previous OneWord posts. OneWord2015Acceptance  OneWord2013/14Enough   OneWord2012 Joy  OneWord2011Joy  OneWord2011JoySummary